Wednesday, February 04, 2009


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    • In a snapshot taken at my first "wedding
      • Stats with a story about gender expectations and roles. - post by tellio
    • We pin our hopes for happiness on romantic love so early
      • More stories about how early ideals of romantic love are "pinned"on us. - post by tellio
    • harder.
      • The first section ends here. Introduction--fulfillment through love is central to our culture. Myth and fantasy shape this desire. - post by tellio
    • storm.
      • Second section ends here--Marriage and love. The idea that a passionate love leads to lifelong married bliss is really a new one. - post by tellio
    • maintain a buzz
      • Third section-- Biochemistry and love: there is a biochemical aspect to love that complicates this long-term institution. - post by tellio
    • experience.
      • Section four--marriage and love revisited: many are attempting to re-invent or preserve marriage and love. - post by tellio
    • ncreasingly, Fisher and other researchers are coming to view what we call love as a series of complex biochemical events governed by hormones and enzymes. "People cling to the idea that romantic love is a mystery, but it's also a chemical experience," Fisher says, explaining that there are three distinct mating emotions and each is supported in the brain by the release of different chemicals. Lust, an emotion triggered by changing levels of testosterone in
      men and women
      , is associated with our basic sexual drive. Infatuation depends on the changing levels of dopamine, norepinephrine, and phenylethylamine (PEA), also called the "chemicals of love." They are natural--addictive--amphetaminelike chemicals that stimulate euphoria and make us want to stay up all night sharing our secrets. After infatuation and the dizzying highs associated with it have peaked--usually within a year or two--this brain chemistry reduces, and a new chemical system made up of oxytocin, vasopressin, and maybe the endorphins kicks in and supports a steadier, quieter, more nurturing intimacy. In the end, regardless of whether biochemistry accounts for cause or effect in love, it may help to explain why some people--those most responsive to the release of the attachment chemicals--are able to sustain a long-term partnership, while thrillseekers who feel depressed without regular hits of dopamine and PEA, are likely to jump from one liaison to the next in order to maintain a buzz.
    • it's obvious that something radically different is needed.
      • Marriage is dead, long live new marriage. - post by tellio
    • something transcendent.
      • The future of love or how to solve the problem of marriage. - post by tellio

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